Women Need Men. Period.

Women Need Men.

Women need men. It’s baffling as to why that statement is controversial or offensive to some people, but it raises an interesting question. Why are some women, and “simps” as they are called, in denial of women’s needing men? Is it a pride thing, or do they no longer need men? Some say women “want” but don’t need men. Men serve as fathers, grandfathers, uncles and so on. The focus of this is men in the capacity of companions, dads and providers.

Parenting

Human beings are social beings who live in complex societies. The very basis of human survival as a species is the ability to work to work as a team. Those who struggle to fit into society often suffer from mental illnesses such as depression or schizophrenia. That as the case, on an individual basis, women need men as companions and more for several reasons.

To naturally make a baby, it takes a man and a woman. Some women think that’s where their need of a man stops, as highlighted in the above screenshot. Statistically speaking, a child raised by a single mother is more likely to face abuse or prison than a child raised in a single father household or by a couple.

Obviously, mothers need the fathers of their children there.

Some will say, “No. The kid needs the father not the mother.” The child does need his father, and so does the mother. When a child displaying troubling behaviors can benefit from his father’s getting involved, the mother needs the father there when her son comes to the point she loses control. To deny this is to deny the statistics that show the level of abuse children face in single-mother households and the studies proving that these children are more likely to be jailed in life.

Even if a woman doesn’t want to be a mom, there is still the issue of companionship.

Programs that involve Section 8, childcare assistance, food stamps and other forms of welfare have been designed specifically for single mothers.

Where the father should be there to provide but isn’t for whatever reason, welfare is designed to pick up the slack. However, it can’t replace the contributions men make to a healthy relationship. It doesn’t supply love, a confidant or words of affirmation.

Some will say, “Not all women are mothers.” Still, many women desire to be a mother one day, and producing productive children will likely come down to having a man involved. Even if a woman doesn’t want to be a mom, there is still the issue of companionship.

Your Confidant

Everybody needs that one person they can talk to. That’s why your heart flutters when you recall those early 2000s late night calls with the person you were secretly in a relationship with. You remember how relaxed you felt after telling him about your irritating classmate or that teacher who made your skin crawl. On an emotional level, you need that type of energy in your life.

If you have never experienced [love], then you can’t miss it…

A man does not replace your therapist, but they do offer you a place to open up. When something is troubling you, it often keeps you up at night. At 3 am, you’re tossing as thoughts of that tense interaction at work run through your mind. You feel trapped and wake up exhausted the next morning.

Your cousin, parents and friends have their own things going on, but your man is right there beside you in the bed. He is there to tell you he’ll take the kids to school in the morning so you can make it to work on time according to the new schedule you didn’t ask for. He reminds you that your freckles are like a beautiful sprinkling of red stars, and you love it. You needed this. If you have never experienced it, then you can’t miss it, and you therefore don’t know what you’re missing.

Imagine that same woman in the South of France overlooking a body of water on a cruise in the arms of the man she loves. Imagine her smiling when the door opens and he’s there on the other side, with her favorite plate of food in hand and open arms. This woman may not know she needs a man before she experiences a real man, but once she does, she’ll agree that she needs a man.

The Value of Men

When some women think of men, they think of a guy taking out trash, fixing a door handle or doing whatever he’s told by her. Some of them fail to realize, understand, and appreciate the value of people. They don’t realize that not every man is the same, and men offer more than trash removal and sex.

The over-trusting of others with their children is where many mothers go wrong.

Men are protectors, creators, and pillars, but the phrase “respect men” has become offensive in society, while “respect women” is expected and shouted from the rooftops. Some contend that the reason children raised by single fathers are less likely to face incarceration than those raised by single mothers is that men offer a level of protection of children many women don’t.

Children who experience traumatic events in childhood are more likely to exhibit negative behavior. Where some women tend to trust friends and family members enough to leave their children with them, men are suspicious of all. And most men wouldn’t leave their children to be babysat by another man. The over-trusting of others with their children is where many mothers go wrong.

This can be an oversexualized generation that doesn’t value human connections.

Men tend to relate to their children more than the mother as the child ages. This bond transforms into a bubble of trust where the child feels more comfortable opening up to their father. When faced with demanding situations as a teen, they’re likely to turn to the father who bonded with them while playing games and exchanging stories. From these interactions, men create more confident, informed sons. This is something boys and kids in general need but also the mother.

The Takeaway

This can be an oversexualized generation that doesn’t value human connections. Women need men for more reasons than trash disposal and sex. Being lonely or unable to feed their kids doesn’t mean a woman doesn’t need a man. It means the opposite. Once they start to realize this, love will have a chance at flourishing again.

This article was written by Jermaine Reed, MFA, the Editor-in-Chief of The Reeders Block. He also works an Adjunct College Professor. Join the email list to get notifications on new blog posts and books. This article is 100% human-written. And remember, if you see an error, that’s what makes us human.