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A Self-described poet, philanthropist and businessman from New York, Derrick Jaxn has gained notoriety as a “relationship guru.” Jaxn (real name Jackson) has made his mark highlighting the flaws of men while uplifting and empowering women; undoubtedly, his message resonated with women who work hard at relationships only to be cheated on or abused by “dog” men. The latter part of his message is what seems to trigger some innocent men who believe his message casts a net of stereotypes over all men. Now, Derrick is finding himself in the doghouse and facing Cancel Culture after allegedly repeatedly cheating on his wife of nearly three years with the same Instagram model. The question becomes, does Derrick Jaxn’s alleged cheating invalidate his overall message of empowering women and deconstructing patriarchy?
Supposedly, Derrick became entangled with an Instagram model whom he flew out to his home in Miami. Leaked screenshots reveal messages where Derrick asked the woman what color underwear she was wearing. To solidify his shot of seeing for himself what color underwear his side chick was wearing, he lied about the status of his marriage. Videos and much of the alleged evidence has been released by Tasha K and is on her Patreon account.
To understand why this is a big deal, one must be familiar with Derrick’s brand. He has built a minor empire based on uplifting women, deconstructing patriarchy and exposing womanizers. Derrick being a secret womanizer is like a lifetime KKK member suddenly revealing he is Black. It is so ironic, it is almost funny, but it is not. In this, there are real victims.
On Twitter, Jackson addressed Pastor John Gray’s admission to taking his wife through “eight years of pain.” However, Derrick did not admit that he himself was actively taking his own wife through that same pain. During his local and national interviews, he actively voiced his anti-womanizer message while secretly engaging in said behavior. He did not take into account or care about his wife’s feelings. It seems that his motivation for money and addiction to to having women at his his whim created a disconnect between him and his wife.
As for the woman Derrick supposedly cheated with, she too is a victim. Derrick led her on to believe he was divorcing his wife and that he cared about the Instagram model, she feels. Some may say she is complicit in hurting the wife, and maybe she is to an extent depending on what she actually knew about the marriage. However, her knowledge of the marriage was limited to what Derrick told her and Derrick used this model for his own selfish desires. He made her feel the way he makes all women feel: worth it. But his intentions were evil.
And so what does this mean about men? Do they all cheat if Derrick does? No. Derrick is one man who used an excellent message to unfairly trick women into his web of deceit. It does not mean his message that women must know their self-worth and avoid shady men is void; it is indeed valid. However, Derrick Jaxn is not. Accused men who are side-eyed every day by women they love waited for years for this shoe to drop. They told their women lovers it would. Now that it has, Derrick is exactly what the men who took the brunt of his false accusations said he was: The Devil Himself portraying an angel.
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